Have you ever been in two minds for such a long time that you felt stuck? What was it like for you? Did you feel trapped in your thoughts and feelings? One minute trying to just make the best of things and the next looking for a way out of the situation.
Did you start to question yourself, wondering if moving forward would just lead to disaster? This is what happened to me when I was stuck in my marriage.
For so long I tried to make the best of things. I worked on the relationship and myself and I would get to the point of feeling ok for a short time. In the end all my efforts just led me to feeling more trapped and less like myself. I tried talking to friends, couple’s counselling, distracting myself and even minimising my own experience, none of it worked. I felt like I didn’t have the courage to move forward.
At this time, what I wanted was to find someone who wasn’t involved in my life to walk alongside me and help me see the path ahead more clearly. Sadly, I didn’t find that person. Then one night, sitting outside in a puddle of tears looking up at the stars, it occurred to me that I wanted more for my life than endlessly trying to fit in or do what others thought was right.
In that moment, I decided that I wanted to move on and I was going to back myself no matter what. I still remember the feeling of resolve and determination that welled up within me at the time.
That decision changed everything for me. Though I faced many challenges after that I realised that I could always back myself and that if the outcome wasn’t what I’d hoped, I could choose again.
What’s more, once I decided to back myself, the Universe conspired to support me. Friends came out of the woodwork and love even walked into my life. So, for the past seven years I have been happier and more fulfilled than I ever thought possible.
My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner and that’s why I created Walk Together Counselling, so I can walk alongside you and hasten your journey to a more confident, determined and joyful you.
I hope this story fills you with hope and helps you to see that happiness is possible, whether you are stuck in a job, a relationship or some other circumstance, it is possible to back yourself and you don’t need to journey alone.